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June 27, 2006


Mary Emma Allen

Hello Jennifer,
This is a lovely, bittersweet piece. Those of us who have or have had a family member afflicted with Alzheimer's or dementia can relate. A friend told me about your post and I've referred others to it. Sharing can bring comfort, even in sadness.
Mary Emma


I found this post through a Blogging Baby article about the Perfect post Awards. Thank you for reminding me of the strong grandmother I loved and lost two years ago. What a beautiful post.


Wow! So beautifully written! I lost my dad to it last April. I was his caregiver, but had to put him in a nursing home his final months because I wasn't set up at home to care for him properly. This really spoke to me as I've been there, choking on those emotions too. It's hard to go thru it with them, but soon they are at peace and that's what counts the most. Thanks for sharing this :)


Very poignant entry. I had to place my aunt in a nursing home 8 months ago and I endure the same emotions that you described here every time I visit her.
Was sent to visit from Kenju's blog.

Motherhood Uncensored

Simply breathtaking - thank you for sharing that.


That was so touching. I am getting ready to go to Finland to see my family, and one of the reasons is that both of my grandmothers are getting very old and I want to make sure I see them alive one last time before we move from teh US to New Zealand...... It is already breaking my heart to say goodbye........... Thank you for this.

OldOldLady Of The Hills

Beautiful! And so very touching. It isn't fair, is it? Life...with all it's fragileness and strength.


This is beautiful! Heartbreaking, but beautiful...


That last part made me tear right up. And make me miss my grandmother SO much...she died when I was in 7th grade, so it's been 22 years. This brought back those last few days with her in the hospital. Thank you so much for writing so eloquently!!



This scenario scares me to death. Alzheimer's runs rampant on my mother's side of the family and I so fear the day if/when I lose my ability to remember things.

This was beautifully written, Jennifer. Of course, that comes as no surprise to me.

Lily Bleu


You have absolute talent with words. I wish you were nearby so we could do a "writing group" together and share insight, editing, and feedback with one another in our writings.



I don't know what to say to this. So beautiful, so sad. Heartbreaking and bittersweet, tears in my eyes.


Jennifer, that meeting was supposed to take place at my poolside! Darn those frogs, they lost the directions to my house.

Thanks for the visit....LOL


You broke my heart this morning, my friend.


My grampa has Alzheimers. I haven't seen him in over a year. I hear stories from my family about how he's rapidly falling apart. I can't bring myself to go see him. It's totally selfish and I feel like a complete schmuck about it...but my reasoning is always "well...he won't even realize that it's me...so why bother?". I just don't want to have my last memories of him be memories of a helpless and senile old man. I'd rather remember him as the strong and funny and always-joking guy that I knew as a child. It makes sense to me...but it also makes me feel like a horrible person...*sigh*


I've only known one grandparent, my grandmother, who was influential on my life. We lost her a few years ago but she's always remembered fondly.

Heart-wrenching post.


Having lost my grandmother's body three years ago but her "twinkle" about 15 more after a tussle with a brain tumor, this post made me think of her and how much she loved me when I was a wee little slip of a girl.

"And don't you forget it."

These are happy tears.

Thank you.


Beautiful beautiful beautiful beautiful beautiful beautiful beautiful beautiful beautiful beautiful beautiful beautiful!!!

And this post's not so bad, either;)


Three years ago, I lost my mom. For days she had been unable to speak. For years, she couldn't tell the difference between my children and my sister's. Still, two days before she died, she silently mouthed, "I love you."

This brought that beautiful memory back for me. Thank you for that.


OK, this one had me in tears. You really have a gift, Jennifer. Thanks for sharing it...

Duke of Earle


Well done, girl. And thanks for the recent visit and comment on mine. I read you daily but seldom comment. I'll try to do better. This post was special.



I didnt get to know either set of my grandparents (mixed marriages from the 60s sometimes had that effect on families), so I havent known them to age and fail. I am, however, getting a first-hand taste of it dealing with my mothers bi-polar lapses, which although not as debilitating as alzheimers, is a foreshadowing of times worse to come.

I recently asked a friend why we couldnt be like wild animals - upon leaving the nest, never looking back - but stories like this, stories like yours, show me why we are as we are, that our humanity comes from comprehending our own frailities and accepting their inevitability.

doesnt make it easier, though, does it?


What a beautiful heart wrenching post. I needed tissues for that one. There is so much emotion there. Wow! Hugsssssssss and Love you!


Whew, you did it again. Thank you.


Lord, Jennifer, this brought back the last memories I have of my grandmother, after she had her first stroke. She knew me, but hadn't spoken for at least 4 months. When I walked in, she smiled, and said through her twisted mouth, "Judy!". I got to tell her before she died that her
newest granddaughter was named for her. For some reason, it was very important for me that she know that. She died 5 months later.

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